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5 Hard Questions that Can Save a Life

1. Are you focusing on what’s truly important?
At every moment, millions of little things compete for your attention. All these things fall into one of two categories: things that are important and things that are not.

People never get more done by blindly working more hours on everything that comes up. Instead, they get more done when they follow careful plans that measure and track key priorities and milestones. So if you want to be more successful and less stressed, don’t ask how to make something more efficient until you’ve first asked, “Do I need to do this at all?”

Simply being able to do something well does not make it the right thing to do. I think this is one of the most common problems with a lot of time-management advice; too often productivity gurus focus on how to do things quickly, but the vast majority of things people do quickly should not be done at all.

2. Are you focusing more on problems or solutions?

Where your mind goes, energy flows. Which area of your life do …
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This is Nigeria...Part 1

Welcome to Nigeria; where masking the truth for political correctness is an art form. Afterall, the truth is subjective and could be a figment of someone else's imagination. There is no point saying it as it is because that has never taken anyone far.

Welcome to Nigeria; where the ruling class reign supreme in their luxury-plated lives with only the social media pangs of their subjects to deal with. The ruling class are emblematic of our national treasure and we all must do everything within and outside our power to ensure they have no worries.

Welcome to Nigeria, where any slightest criticism on the government of the day is synonymous with hate speech, inciting the already heated polity and an affront to the great work of the 'powers that be.' The government of the day must be shielded from any from of public vitriolic. Instead, it behoove on us all to ensure there are adequate praise singers around them. The task of leadership is already a onerous one. There is no need …

7 Life Lessons I Have Learnt From Driving

1. The Road is a leveller

It doesn't matter what you drive, the road is a leveller. Until flying cars become norm, the road remains our primary source of plying. All sorts of cars ply same road. The Ricketies, the Bugattis, the Ferrari all have to make do with same means of conveyance. Just like life, the 'road' happens to us all. It doesn't matter what you drive in life, it is about your contentment in what you drive.

2. You are the driver

It doesn't matter who you have in your car, you are the driver of your life. The driver is the final arbiter in the car. You decide the route, you insist on safety standards such as seat belt usage. Just like in life, you are making choices everyday irrespective of whether you realize it or not. You must always be a player not a victim. We make choices everyday irrespective of whether or not we are conscious of it.

3. There are some circumstances you can't help


One of the biggest lessons I have learnt while driving is that t…

The Lagos Danfo Bus: Our Collective Plight

The Lagos danfo bus, with its trademark yellow colour, is a microcosm of the Nigerian state in more ways than one. The danfo bus is probably as old as Lagos state itself. Every efforts by successive governments to rebrand the danfo bus has proved abortive. It is a brand that thrives in it resistance to change. It has survived the eras of BRT and the emergence of online taxi services such as Uber and Taxify (now Bolt).

The danfo bus is a leveller of classes. In it, there are the working class of all stratas. The suit peddlers working in air conditioned offices around Victoria Island with a paltry take home. There are the traders always on the go, hurling their crafts from place to place. There are the hustlers always on the move with lack of clarity on their destinations. They revere in being on the move and can easily transit crafts depending on the need. One minute they can 'pick' a phone from an inattentive passenger on the danfo bus, the next minute they can be a driver o…

When The Battle Chooses You

The surest way to get yourself into trouble is to insert yourself into a fight that doesn’t concern you. In many instances in life, we must turn a blind eye, allow sleeping dogs have a field day and simply find a glass of water while minding our business. Too many battles in life are simply not worth the trouble. Yet, this is half-truth.

They say, ‘pick your battles’ but that is premised upon the assumption that you have a choice. There are some battles that leaves you with no options. The kind that arrives uninvited, squared up for the fight, throws down the gauntlet, and draws first blood. Those are battles you can’t refuse. What do we do when the battle chooses us? When life reserves some of it’s biggest blows for us? What do we do when the battle arrives at our doorstep at an inconvenient time?

We must understand the nature of the battle that chooses us. It is only when we understand the nuances of the battle that we can effectively strategize on how to fight it. At times, this b…

15 Important Reminders for Your Darkest Moments of Self-Doubt

1. When your marriage, parenting, faith, etc. gets tough, it’s not a sign that you’re doing it wrong. These intimate, intricate aspects of life are toughest when you’re doing them right – when you’re dedicating time, having the tough conversations, and making daily sacrifices.

2. On particularly hard days when you feel that you can’t endure, remind yourself that your track record for getting through hard days is 100% so far.

3. Have a little faith that the universe has a plan for you, and it’s all being revealed in the right time frame. Something you will eventually learn through all your ups and downs is that there are really no wrong decisions in life, just choices that will take your life down different paths. Sometimes you must get hurt in order to grow, or lose in order to gain. Sometimes the lesson you need most can only be learned through a little pain.

4. Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional.

5. Life is not about maintaining the status quo. Life is not about playing it s…

Obi Invictus And The Nigerian Dream (satire)

Remind me again, why is there so much hullabaloo about Obi Invictus and the FBI indictment of him for fraud running into 12 million dollars? Is he not supposed to be the poster boy of the Nigerian dream? Is he not supposed to be the media darling for whom there is no erring? Why are the streets of social media in a rush to pull this great young man down? The damning report from FBI Special Agent, Marshall Ward, must have been the contemplations of Obi’s detractors and sworn enemies. They must have sponsored the FBI malicious investigation to spite him, to cut him to size, to remind him that his ‘village people’ still have the mojo.

Obi is the model Nigerian entrepreneur. He built his Invictus Group company with grit, blood, hardwork and handy knowledge from his degree in Forensic Criminology.

Forget what you read, Obi Invictus is still your ‘Man Crush Monday (MCM).’ He hasn’t killed anyone. He was only trying to get by in a tough economy. When he made a quote that ‘Mindset is everyt…