Skip to main content


Showing posts from November, 2017

Zimbabwe: Not Yet Uhuru

The glee has been unprecedented and the streets of Harare have never witnessed such hysterical moments. In the eyes of the people, the army have become national heroes for daring to do the impossible, and the once revered Robert Mugabe has become a national caricature. The placards on the streets of Zimbabwe have been damning to behold for the 93 years old. One of such placards in the hands of a teenager read: ‘Rest in Peace, Robert’. It is a case of the downfall of the patriarch of Africa’s strongmen.

For many, Mugabe was Zimbabwe. He has become synonymous with the Southern African Country. Mugabe’s rise to tyranny was a heroic ascension. He spent 11 years as a political prisoner under Ian Smith’s Rhodesian government. He rose to lead the Zimbabwe African National Union movement and was one of the key negotiators in the 1979 Lancaster House Agreement, which led to the creation of a fully democratic Zimbabwe. Elected prime minister and later president, he embraced conciliation with …

10 Things to Remember Before You Take Things Personally

Continuing the series of thoughts on not taking things personal, these are ten striking things to remember.

1. Calmness is a superpower. The ability to not overreact or take things personally keeps your mind clear and your heart at peace.

2. Even when it seems personal, rarely do people do things because of you, they do things because of them.

3. You may not be able control all the things people say and do to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them.

4. There is a huge amount of freedom that comes to you when you detach from other people’s beliefs and behaviors. The way people treat you is their problem, how you react is yours.

5. Oftentimes people do things and say things because they’ve been conditioned to, not because they consciously want to.

6. You can’t control how people receive your energy. Whatever someone interprets, or projects onto you, is at least partially an issue or problem that they themselves are dealing with.

7. Take constructive criticism seriously, bu…

It’s Not Personal!

When one stops taking what other people do or say personally, one is no longer in conflict with them - Suma Varughese

I have come to learn a great truth about people and their reaction towards me, which is ‘It’s not about me.’ You need to learn to stop taking things to heart. Everyone just wants to get by, and in a dog-eat-dog environment like ours, everyone wants to survive. When all is said and done, it is not personal; it rarely is. Understanding this will free you from the shackles of un-forgiveness and give a new lease of life to your spirit.

People do what they do because that is what their mind, ego selves or situations cause them to do. It has very little to do with us. Unfortunately, we take it all personally, and feel angry, jealous, hurt or sad. And when they do things that benefit us, or give a boost to our ego selves by complimenting us or showing their affection for us, we feel happy, self-congratulatory or validated. But that too has nothing to do with us. Those who li…

40 Hard Things You Need to Hear

1. When you hear only what you want to hear, you’re not really listening. Listen to what you don’t want to hear too. That’s how you grow.

2. Fantasizing about other times and places can be dangerous. Don’t cling so tightly to the past, or dream so fervently about the future, that you miss out on the real value and beauty that is here and now. Don’t live entirely in your head. Don’t miss your life!

3. You often waste your time waiting for the ideal path to appear. But it never does. Because you forget that paths are made by walking, not waiting.

4. You will never feel as confident as you want to feel. Stop believing that you should feel more confident before you take the next step. Taking the next step is what builds your confidence.

5. Distractions will get the best of you if you let them. Study your routines, figure out where your time goes, and remove distractions. You become a true master of your life when you learn how to master your focus—where your attention goes.