10 Things to Remember Before You Take Things Personally
Continuing the series of thoughts on not taking things personal, these are ten striking things to remember.
1. Calmness is a superpower. The ability to not overreact or take things personally keeps your mind clear and your heart at peace.
2. Even when it seems personal, rarely do people do things because of you, they do things because of them.
3. You may not be able control all the things people say and do to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them.
4. There is a huge amount of freedom that comes to you when you detach from other people’s beliefs and behaviors. The way people treat you is their problem, how you react is yours.
5. Oftentimes people do things and say things because they’ve been conditioned to, not because they consciously want to.
6. You can’t control how people receive your energy. Whatever someone interprets, or projects onto you, is at least partially an issue or problem that they themselves are dealing with.
7. Take constructive criticism seriously, but not personally. Weigh what you hear from others against what you know in your heart to be true.
8. If you’re willing to view the behavior of other people as indicative of their relationship with themselves, then you will inevitably take things less personally.
9. If you truly wish to improve your self-confidence, self-esteem, and self-worth, stop allowing other people to be responsible for them. Stop allowing other people to dominate your emotions.
10. All the hardest, coldest people you meet were once as soft as a baby. And that’s the tragedy of living. So when people are rude, be kind, be mindful, be your best. Give those around you the “break” that you hope the world will give you on your own “bad day” and you will never, ever regret it.