THE WRITING WORLD OF SAMUEL OKONKWO

1. One day at a time. I have learnt that you will not always find all the answers, and some things will always remain grey. But the secret is to always take life one day at a time. Some things will only get clearer along the way. Don’t try to enter the future all at once. There is power in un-clarity.

2. Random check on people can be really powerful. A friend recounted to me how through a simple phone call she was able to salvage her friend who was on the brink of plunging into third mainland bridge. Care, and truly care for people. Ask ‘how are you’ and really mean it.

3. Dreams do come true. Earlier this year, I’d fiddled with the idea of how great it will be to speak on the TEDx stage someday. Interestingly, I wrote this as one of my 2018 goals even without having a clue on how. On December 1st, I ticked it off. It’s a cliché but you honestly have to see it, before you get it.

4. Stick to your plan. More than ever before, I have learnt the power of sticking to your plan; the late…

1. You are alive.

2. You are able to see the sunrise and the sunset.

3. You didn’t go to sleep hungry last night.

4. You awoke this morning with a roof over your head.

5. You had a choice of what clothes to wear.

6. You haven’t feared for your life today.

7. You have overcome some considerable obstacles, and you have learned and survived.

8. You often worry about what you’re going to do with your life – your career, your family, the next step, etc. – which means you have ambition, passion, drive, and the freedom to make your own decisions.

9. You have a friend or relative who misses you and looks forward to your next visit.

10. You have access to the Internet.

11. You can read (my favorite).

(MARCANDANGEL).

1. Life isn’t fair, but it’s still good.
2. When in doubt, just take the next small step.
3. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone.
4. Don’t take yourself so seriously. No one else does.
5. If you don’t ask, you don’t get.
6. You don’t have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.
7. Cry with someone. It’s more healing than crying alone.
8. It’s OK to get angry with God. He can take it.
9. Save for retirement starting with your first paycheck.
10. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.
11. Make peace with your past so it won’t screw up the present.
12. Its OK to let your children see you cry.
13. Don’t compare your life to others’. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
14 If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn’t be in it.
15. Everything can change in the blink of an eye. But don’t worry; God never blinks.
16. Life is too short for long pity parties. Get busy living, or get busy dying.
17. You can get through anything if you stay put in t…

I was in the queue to check into an hotel when a man probably in his early 40's brisked pass me so fast that he nearly knocked me off. The hotel security was quick to point out to him that there is a queue and he will have to be behind me. The man glanced at me with scornful eyes and responded in a fierce voice 'Nonsense. I am checking in now.' His accent gave him away as French. The hotel security were going to begin a scene but I told them not to bother, that I will wait.

Interestingly, there was another opening at an alternative check in counter so I simply made my way there. I was still concluding my check in modalities when I heard the same French man screaming at the hotel attendant. Clearly, there was an issue with his booking and he was not taking any prisoners on that. He was making his feelings known, never mind that the fault might have been his.

I had finished my check in modalities but I observed that this man was still there, cursing and somewhat flustered.…

From his teething coaching days in Benfica, Jose Mourinho already had the makings of pure box office. The notoriety became pronounced after he lifted the Champions League trophy with FC Porto, against all odds. His arrival in English football at the summer of 2004 fully entrenched him into footballing lexicon; and coaching narrative was going to be redefined forever.

Today, one can clearly say that Jose has come of age in coaching terms. He has been around for the better part of two decades, and irrespective of the disdain anyone holds for him, he is an undisputed serial winner. Since 2002, Mourinho has won eight league titles across Portugal, England, Italy and Spain. He has bagged the Champions League twice, won the Europa League twice and added thirteen other domestic cups along the way. Yet, each time Jose Mourinho’s name is in the narrative, there is still a contention, a polarization of opinion and a twinge of vitriolic spewing around in the verbiage. The kind that is not pres…

1. Opportunity is only ever found in the present.
Some people wait all day for 5pm, all week for Friday, all year for the holidays, all their lives for happiness and peace. Don’t be one of them. Life is too short. Time is running out. Don’t wait until your life is almost over to realize how good it has been. The secret to happiness and peace is letting this moment be what it is, instead of what you think it should be, and then making the very best of it.

If you don’t allow yourself to move past what happened, what was said, what was felt, you will look at your present and future through that same dirty lens and nothing will be able to focus your foggy judgment. Realize this. What you do now matters more than what happened yesterday.

2. Your entire life can be customized from day to day.
There are hundreds of people in every town on Earth who live their entire lives on the default settings, never realizing they can customize everything. Don’t be one of them. Don’t settle for …

Nia Vardalos once said ‘You only get one life so you might as well make it a happy one, and that's why I tend to just jump into things. I'm sort of a fearless idiot that way.’ It is a cliché which we have heard from time immemorial that life is short. But how many of us actually live our day to day lives like we’re really going to die one day? Aware that this thing called life is fleeting, and more importantly, a non-rehearsal.

Many of us live lives filled with tedium, responsibilities, and unpleasant chores. We spend so much of our mental energy just getting through each day that it’s easy to forget that our time on earth is finite, that each moment we fritter away is a moment we will never get back. This is a reality that though many are aware of, has not really sunk in.

Everything you desire in life has a price and you have to be willing to accept that price. If you desire to do great work, it will cost you. Likewise, security and comfort will cost you. If you want a luxur…

1. In the space between “I’ll try again” and “I give up” there’s a lifetime. It’s the difference between the path you walk and the one you leave behind; it’s the gap between who you are capable of being and who you have become; it’s the legroom for the fairy tales you’ll tell yourself in the future about what could have been.

2. There is no success without unrelenting love. Love is the foundation of human progress. Don’t give up on it. Instead, love what you do, until you can do what you love. Love where you are, until you can be where you love. Love the people you are with, until you can be with the people you love most.

3. Putting in extra love and effort—doing the hard things—is always worth it. Because those are the things that ultimately define you. Those are the things that make the difference between existing and living—between knowing the path and walking the path—between a life of mediocrity and a life filled with progress and fulfillment.

4. The most powerful weapon aga…