Tuesday, January 29, 2013

10 Ways To Make Life Good Again!

1. Accept reality so you can changeit. To move forward in life you must first accept the reality of what it is. This acceptance provides you with an important starting point from which you can move in any direction you choose. To deny this reality or to fight againstthe past will merely waste your time and energy. To wish that things were different, or to pretend that they are, gets you nowhere. Instead, visualize the possibilities and the path forward with a calm, collected mind. Then determine the next logical step that will take you in the direction of your vision and step forward. Read The Road Less Traveled . 2. Tap into the abundant resourcesaround you. When you adopt an attitude that life owes you something you set yourself up for frustration and unhappiness. Realize instead that life hasalready provided you with a world filled with abundance, and that creating meaningful value out of this abundance is up to you. No matter who you are, where you’re from, or what your socioeconomic status is, a life of fulfillment requires commitment and effort from you. It is through positive, productive choices that you line up life’s abundance in ways that uniquely express your personal dreams and values. 3. Guard your dreams and go after them. You need space to try things and create things. It takes a long time to recalibrate if you let people pull at you all the time. A lot of stress comes from reacting to stuff. You have to keep a certain guard up against these negative influences . Build an emotional barrier and allow yourself to dream and explore the passions that speak to the essence of who you are. Then let those dreams and passions pull you steadily throughthe practical, hands-on work of bringing them to life. Work through each day with diligence and persistence, doing what’s required. And as you do, stay close to the dreamer that always lives within you. 4. Loosen your grip. Sometimes you can hold so tightly to what youknow that you deny yourself the opportunity to learn and experience great new things. Andin the back of your mind you know this and it bothers you. You become so worried about losing comfort that you cease to be comfortable. When you’re willing to let go a little, you can actually discover and enjoy a lot more. Because when your energy is not consumed by possessiveness and fear, you have more energy available to experience life. Instead of striving to hold tightly to everything, let it come, let it go, and let the next moment bring its own unique wonder. Read The Untethered Soul . 5. Think about the possibilities. Each new day greets you with no rules except the ones you place on it. So greet it with openarms and positive thoughts. Let the possibilities inspire you and keep you going. Others may call you an idealist or naive or some other belittling title, ignore them. Life is not about what you could do, it’s about what you will do. Write this down: “My life hasunlimited possibilities.” Choose to find these possibilities in everything that comes your way, and no problem will ever be able to conquer you. 6. Replace “I can’t” with “I can.” The power of the phrase “I can’t” is frightening. It makes strong people weak, happy people sad, blinds those who can see, turns the brave into cowards, robs the brilliance of every genius, causes the rich to think poorly, and limits the potential of that highly capable brain inside your head. Replace “I can’t” with “I can” and then try again. When you experience a negative circumstance in your life, do not dwell on it. Be proactive – direct your attention to the possible action steps that will bring you to a positive result. 7. Help others feel better about themselves. There’s nothing more rewarding than helping someone realize their own self-worth. Your lifewill not likely be measured by a single great achievement; it will be measured by thousands of small ones that all compound on top of one another. Each time you perform an act of kindness or bring a smile to someone’s face it gives your life more meaning. So act like what you do makes a difference – it does. 8. Save some love and respect for yourself. You can be the most beautiful person on the inside and out in the whole wide world, and everybody who sees you is awestruck, but if you yourself don’t see and feel it, none of it matters. Every moment you spend doubting your self-worth – every moment you spend negatively judging yourself – is a tragic moment, for it is a moment of your life that you chose to throw away. Don’t do this. You only have so many moments. The love you seek is seeking you at this very moment, you just have to open up to it. 9. Purge unnecessary headaches. As Albert Einstein once said, “Excessive possessions, seeking outward success, extreme publicity, luxuries – to me these have always been contemptible. I believe that a simple and unassuming manner of life is best for everyone, best for both the body and the mind.” In other words, in thinking, be down to earth. In necessitates, keep to the essential. In conflicts, be fair. In leading others, guide instead of controlling. In work, tap into your passion. In relationships, be completely genuine and present. Keep it all straightforward and simple. Read The Power of Less . 10. Indulge in life’s priceless little pleasures. The foundation of a good life is all around you. Experience the joy in life’s universal elements… To find the fresh air and a light breeze exhilarating; to be refreshed by a morning walk or an evening stroll; to be thrilled by the sun’s warmth and the flickering stars at night; to be elated over the sound of a rain shower ora wildflower in the Springtime. Etc. These are some of the greatest rewards of a truly good life. MANDG...

Sunday, January 27, 2013

10 Choices You Will Regret In 10 Years!

1. Wearing a mask to impress others. – If the face you always show the world is a mask, someday there will be nothing beneath it. Because when you spend too much time concentrating on everyone else’s perception of you, or who everyone else wants you to be, you eventually forget who you really are. So don’t fear the judgments of others; you know in your heart who you are and what’s true to you. You don’t have to be perfect to impress and inspire people . Let them be impressed and inspired by how you deal with your imperfections. 2. Letting someone else create your dreams for you. – The greatest challenge in life is discovering who you are; the second greatest is being happy with what you find. A big part of this is your decision to stay trueto your own goals and dreams. Do you have people who disagree with you? Good. It means you’re standing your ground and walking your own path. Sometimes you’ll dothings considered crazy by others, but when you catch yourself excitedly losing track of time, that’s when you’ll know you’re doing the right thing. Read The 4-Hour Workweek . 3. Keeping negative company. – Don’t let someone who has a bad attitude give it to you. Don’t let them get to you. They can’t pull the trigger if you don’t hand them the gun. When you remember that keeping the company of negative people is a choice, instead of an obligation, you free yourself to keep the company of compassion instead of anger, generosity instead of greed, and patience instead of anxiety. 4. Being selfish and egotistical. – A life filled with loving deeds and good character is the best tombstone. Those who you inspired and shared your love with will remember how you made them feel long after your timehas expired. So carve your name on hearts , not stone. What you have done for yourself alone dies with you; what you have done for others and the world remains. 5. Avoiding change and growth. – If you want toknow your past look into your present conditions. If you want to know your future look into your present actions. You must let go of the old to make way for the new; the old way is gone, never to come back. If you acknowledge this right now and take steps to address it, you will position yourself for lasting success. The Power of Habit . 6. Giving up when the going gets tough. – There are no failures, just results. Even if things don’t unfold the way you had expected, don’t be disheartened or give up. Learn what you can and move on. The one who continues to advance one step at a timewill win in the end. Because the battle is always won far away and long before the final victory. It’s a process that occurs with small steps, decisions, and actions that gradually build upon each other and eventually lead to that glorious moment of triumph. 7. Trying to micromanage every little thing. – Life should be touched, not strangled. Sometimes you’ve got to relax and let life happen without incessant worry and micromanagement. Learn to let go a little before you squeeze too tight. Take a deep breath. When the dust settles and you can once again see the forest for the trees, take the next step forward. You don’t have to know exactly where you’re going to be headed somewhere great. Everything in life is in perfect order whether you understand ityet or not. It just takes some time to connect all the dots. 8. Settling for less than you deserve. – Be strong enough to let go and wise enough to wait for what you deserve. Sometimes you have to get knocked down lower than you have ever been to stand up taller than you ever were before. Sometimes your eyes need to be washed by your tears so you can see the possibilities in front of you with a clearer vision again. Don’t settle. 9. Endlessly waiting until tomorrow. – The trouble is, you always think you have more time than you do. But one day you will wakeup and there won’t be any more time to workon the things you’ve always wanted to do. And at that point you either will have achieved the goals you set for yourself, or you will have a list of excuses for why you haven’t. Read The Last Lecture . 10. Being lazy and wishy-washy. – The world doesn’t owe you anything, you owe the world something. So stop daydreaming and start DOING. Develop a backbone, not a wishbone. Take full responsibility for your life – take control. You are important and you are needed. It’s too late to sit around and wait for somebody to do something someday. Someday is now; the somebody the world needs is YOU . MANDG!

9 Powerful Ways To Spend A Day!

1. Thinking for yourself. The uneducated belief in something false that someone tells you is the greatest enemy of your own truth. Do not let anyone tinker with the freedom of your mind . The best thing you can do for yourself is to think for yourself. With all of society’s influences and agendas incessantly trying to persuade you every single second, thinking foryourself is the most courageous act imaginable. You are a unique human being with independent thoughts and free will; carryon accordingly. 2. Being a little bit uncomfortable. If you’re not a little bit uncomfortable on a daily basis it means you’re not growing. Every aspect of physical and emotional growtharrives from outside your comfort zone. So be fearless sometimes. Have the courage to take the risks that feel right. Go where there are nocertainties. Stretch yourself and your routineseven if it means feeling a bit uncomfortable. The road less traveled is sometimes laden withpotholes, bumps, and unexplored territory. But it is on this road where your strength grows and your dreams gradually reveal themselves. Read The Road Less Traveled . 3. Taking baby steps in the right direction. Throughout this beautiful day you have hundreds of little opportunities to move your life in the direction you want it to go. When was the last time you woke up and realized that today could be the best day of your life? Participate in your dreams today. Do it! Take one small step forward; there are plenty of ways to do so. Remember, success is something you experience when you act accordingly. Success is not something you HAVE, it’s something you DO . 4. Trying and failing and trying again. Stick to it and keep moving forward, even when the path gets rough. One of the most common causes of long-term failure is the habit of quitting after a temporary defeat. Many of your greatest achievements will be realized when you’re completely exhausted and discouraged but still working. Because when it’s all said and done, it really doesn’t matter if you try and try and try, and fail and fail and fail, until you eventually learn what you need to know to succeed. It does matter, however, if you try and fail once and fail to try ever again. Bottom line: You only have to succeed the very last time. Read The Success Principles . 5. Working through your fears. How you handle your fears will ultimately determine where you go and what you do withthe majority of your life – to experience life fully or be incapacitated by the fear of it. Although fear can feel overwhelming, and defeats more people than any other one thing in the world, it’s not as powerful as it seems. Fear is only as deep as your mind allows. You are still in control. The key is to acknowledge your fear and directly address it. You must step right up and confront it face to face. This tactic robs fear of its power. 6. Seeking happiness from within. A choice, not circumstances, determines happiness. Your happiness isn’t out there somewhere waiting for you, it’s already within you. Each morning when you open your eyes, say to yourself: “I, not external people or events, have the power to make me happy or unhappytoday. It’s up to me. Yesterday is gone and tomorrow hasn’t come yet. I have just today and I’m going to be happy in it.” 7. Practicing small acts of kindness. Aesop once said, “No act of kindness, however small, is ever wasted.” If you have big plans that can make a real impact in the lives of the masses, by all means, execute your plans. But don’t let these big plans interfere with the small deeds you can do every day for the people around you. If you wait until you can do something big for everyone, instead of just something small for someone, you’ll end up doing nothing at all for anyone. 8. Tracking and measuring your progress. You are always moving toward something, but YOU have to decide what that something is. Don’t let someone else decide for you. From where you stand now you can go anywhere. There are paths leading in every imaginable direction. What matters the most right now is the next step you take. Decide what you truly want for yourself and those closest to you, and know that there is a way, right now, to begin the journey of gettingthere. When your intentions and actions have a specific, focused purpose, each step you take will carry you closer to the realization of that purpose. Read The Power of Habit . 9. Letting small annoyances go. Today, go through your day consciously. Makean effort to notice at least one insignificant little frustration that you would normally get frustrated about. Then do yourself a favor and simply let it go . Experience, in this little way, the grand freedom of being in control of the way you feel. And realize that you can extend this same level of control to every situation you encounter in life. At any given moment, the way you feel is the way you choose to feel, and the way you react is the way you choose to react. MANDG!

Monday, January 21, 2013

Jonathan And The Cloud That Hovers

Forget the boisterous stunts and rhetoric that the erudite Reuben Abati will force us to believe, the signs are apparent even to the impaired, as Aso Rock brews from a power tussle; one that could define the presidency of Dr. Goodluck Jonathan. It is the burden of Goodluck that he still has the imperious and vindictive Olusegun Obasanjo lurking around. No doubt, Jonathan enjoyed from the spoils of OBJ's infamous 'Do or Die' politics. But, like the devil who gives with one hand and collects with the other, OBJ's perennial fraternity with the corridor of power might prove decisive. But OBJ's shenanigans is not the only cross GEJ must bear. The politics of inchoate and sheer intrigue that has recently bedevilled the ruling Peoples Democratic Party confirms that the president is entangled in a web of power tussle, pitted against factions, and torn between options. Trouble was first invited when former president, Olusegun Obasanjo decided to call it a day as the chairman of the PDP board of trustees, last year. The vacuum brought up a can of worms, with several 'old war horses' rearing up their heads to have a final bite on the national cake. The impeachment of the party's secretary and the melodrama that ensued further lays credence to the fact that GEJ is in for a long battle. Jonathan is not only fighting the 'octopus' Obasanjo, but also the strong PDP governors in power. 17 sitting PDP governors will not be eligible to contest in 2015 as governors again. Thus, the schemers and the plot has left the party in the lurch. Yet, there is the small matter of local government autonomy that tears all factions apart. Indeed, the North still relieves in the thought that the Jonathan presidency is their entitlement, and as long as they are concerned, he is ruling on borrowed time. The West are adamant that their 'eight years' by 2015 must return. The East still hurts from the failure to regain the presidency since Aguyi Ironsi in 1996, and they perceive 2015 as their set time. And then, the Niger Deltans, who are bent on GEJ staying put; as they must savour their moment in the sun. Jonathan strongest companion in all of these appears to be the PDP national chairman, Bamanga Tukur. OBJ's wish is for Ahmadu Ali to be installed as BOT chairman, but the Jonathan bloc are all too aware of what that decision holds for the future. This is a script that we are yet to see the last act, but one thing we know is this: In all these tussle and struggle, it is not about you and me. It is not about the common man, it is about power and the inordinate, addictive and unguarded ambition to get it at all cost.

Thursday, January 17, 2013

7 Things To Stop Worrying About Today...

1. The challenges you face. Challenges are not here to worry about; they are here to help you grow. Challenges are what make life interesting, andovercoming them is what makes life meaningful. Many of history’s greatest accomplishments were responses to difficult challenges. Many of your own greatest advances have been in response to challenging circumstances. Each of life’s challenges is a test that helps you notice and understand your weaknesses, thus enabling you to transform these weaknesses into strengths . 2. Less than ideal conditions you can’t control. There is no good reason to deny yourself the opportunity to do something extraordinary. Life is about making a difference, and you will never run out of ways to do that. Whatever has happened, whatever others say, whatever the state of the economy or weather may be, you still have the ability to thrive. Life is what you choose to make it. You have unlimited power over your mind, not external objects and events. Realize this, and you will find the source of strength you need to move mountains. Read How to Stop Worrying and Start Living . 3. The reasons it might not work. Your doubts are little enemies living in your mind that make you lose battles you are capable of winning. They stir fear into your conscious and keep you wishing instead of DOING. In other words, they disrupt necessaryaction. An idea or a wish is a good place to start, but then you have to get off your butt, face your doubts and make things happen. You have to pick up the pen and paper and write your own story. Don’t let your doubts get the best of you. While intent is the seed of success, action is the water that nourishes the seed. Your actions must reflect your goals in order to achieve something worthwhile in this world. 4. Everyone else’s dreams. Start worrying about your own dreams. They are unique and undeniably yours for a reason. They are showing you, and at the same time compelling you, to make the most of your life . It is not selfish to be your very best. What’s selfish is to let your enormous potential go unrealized. What have you always wanted to know, alwayswanted to do, and always wanted to be? It is never too late to honestly answer that question, and the answer to that question is your own truly beautiful and unique gift to theworld. Because when you fulfill your greatest possibilities, you raise the whole world up withyou. Read A New Earth . 5. Love that isn’t true. The true kind of love involves attention, awareness, discipline, effort, and being able totruly care about someone and sacrifice for them, continuously, in countless petty little unsexy ways, every day. You put your arms around them and love them regardless, even when they’re not so lovable. And of course they do the same for you. This kind of love has little to do with falling. It’s a long climb up the rocky face of a mountain, hard work that most people are too selfish or too scared to bother with. If you want to know what a truly healthy relationship is, it’s one where both people wake up every morning and say, “This is worthit. You are worth it. I choose to be with you.” Read The 5 Love Languages . 6. Other people’s temper tantrums. Losing your temper with people who have already lost theirs does not accomplish anything, but only sets you out upon a path of foolishness and frustration. When you maintain enough self-control to stand firm at the moment when another person is in a temper tantrum, you will win in the end. Because it’s not the one who has spoken a hundred words aloud who has won; itis the one who has perhaps spoken only one word: “goodbye.” 7. More and more work that ONLY makes money. Forget about the easy street or fast lane mentalities. If you really want to do somethingwonderful with your life , harness the power of the ideas and efforts that move you. Honor your instincts. Trust your heart and true wealth will come to you. As Anthony Robbin’s once said, “Passion is thegenesis of genius.” Enthusiasm is the mother of all productive work; without it rarely does something great ever transpire. When you connect with your work you always strive to become the best you can be. And as you gradually become better and better, everything around you becomes better too. M&G! Bottom line: The more passion you have for your work, the more value you will create through it. And value is ultimately what people are willing to pay a premium for.

Friday, January 11, 2013

Poetry: She left...............

In the struggle for life, she escaped us. Concealed behind the darkness, she catered for her own anguish. They say an ant journey is never a short one But her sojourn through pain was even shorter. She was the custodian of her solitude, And the guardian of her own isolation. She died in instalments. But we were too busy to observe. Too entangled in Life's expectation, laced with selfish hopes and inordinate ambitions. Her teeth were chattering in bitterness, Her ears were peeping into the corners of tranquillity. Tears began to form in her eyes, effortlessly. In substances that made us cringe. But our concern was belated, It arrived in the lull of time. When darkness had already flooded itself in the contours of our world. Death had it's toll, And our bodies were left, Smacking scars that will never erase, Wiping tears that will never stop, Harbouring wounds that will never heal. She passed on. And like the scorpion that carries it poison at the back, Our days were laced with the burden of her absence.

Wednesday, January 2, 2013

Technology And The Culture Of Isolation

The discoveries witnessed in the past decade have been startling, to put it mildly. From the smart phones to the amazing wonder that comes with everything 'I', we are in a technological watershed that even Newton and Einstein would have been astounded. However, with the glitz and untrammeled nature of this evolution comes unintended consequences. Psychologists contend that with the advent of new technologies, our interpersonal skills have been affected. As it has been observed, new media does not create loneliness, it reveals it. In today's world, so many people prefer the option of being alone as long as a gadget or tablet is within reach. We don't find a need of visiting friends or actually meeting people in reality. Sociologists Miller McPherson and Matthew Brashears in a study carried out in America confirmed that technology has contributed to social isolation and impairment in human relations. Society's increased reliance on these services as central forums of social interaction is detrimental at best. In more ways than one, technology has affected our sense of reason and behavioural skills. As if to portray it cantankerous nature in solving societal ills, recent studies have showed that emerging technologies have grossly affected our usage of the English language. The use of colloquial words, abbreviations and symbols, have dealt a blow to how we actually use the language in the formal and corporate setting. Little wonder it was reported of a young man that went for an interview, and the first word he told the waiting panel when he came in was 'sup'. We have become the headphones generation, preferring to listen to our music in silence than utter a single word of acknowledgement to a stranger, perhaps even a friend. Hellos and goodbyes have been replaced with head nods and fist bumps. Emotions are trapped in the ecstasy of our BBM. Our ipads have displaced the need for a Personal Assistant or even a Secretary. Smart phones have replaced the need for real human interactions, and a person's voice no longer needs to be heard as long as his cell phone shows five bars of connection. The unimagined fear remains that technology could finally extinct us from our sense of reality and detach us from true humanity.