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You Think Anybody Really Cares About You?


The movie, ‘Rocky’ is renowned for many things, but none of these things compares to the life lessons that this movie is laced with. This is one of such lessons from the movie: ‘Let me tell you something you already know. The world ain’t all sunshine and rainbows. It’s a very mean and nasty place and I don’t care how tough you are it will beat you to your knees and keep you there permanently if you let it. You, me, or nobody is gonna hit as hard as life. But it ain’t about how hard you hit. It’s about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward. How much you can take and keep moving forward. That’s how winning is done! Now if you know what you’re worth then go out and get what you’re worth. But you gotta be willing to take the hits, and not pointing fingers saying you ain’t where you wanna be because of him, or her, or anybody! Cowards do that and that ain’t you! You’re better than that’

The sad thing is that some people are so fixated about how they show up, how they are being perceived, what the view about them is. What such people fail to understand is that there is enough going on in every individual’s life to keep them preoccupied. The reality is that everyone in life, small or big is pursuing something. Everyone has goals they want to achieve, and as one of my friends will say, everyone needs a sponsor in one way or the other. In many ways, it is a dog eat dog situation.

One of the quick things I realized early in life is that in the final analysis, no one really has your best interest at heart as much as you do. And this is not a bad thing, it is just the way the world is. Your demon is your demon and there are places of trials in your life where everyone else is bared from the court room. There are places of personal pressures in your life where your wife, husband, children, siblings, father, mother and best friends can’t get into. It is not that they don’t love you enough to go through this with you, but the truth is that there are some burdens you bear on your own. The sooner you stop bitching about who wasn’t there for you when you needed them, and instead, take your life by the scruff of the neck, the better for you.

Dust yourself each time and face what you must. Get a few friends who will always be there. Find the positives for there are still some good in this world. Stay close to family and trudge on with your life. Don’t delude yourself that everyone is after you; you are not that important. You are not the center of everyone’s attention, and some of the greatest battles you will fight in life, you must do it alone.

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